I have posted this for my sister. She called me late last night and it was almost chillfully dejavu. She was calling to let me know her sister in law died in a car accident. This was so tragic. She was a beautiful young woman. It will be long hard and painful road for the Kirkland family. But I can say she came from a family that is one with God. With that my heart is at ease knowing that she is heading to a wonderful place.
The pastor spoke at my grandfathers funeral and she spoke of him and she referred to the dates on his tombstone from the beginning - to the end. She noted that first came his date of birth and then spoke the following date with tears, but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years. For that dash represented all the time that he spent alive on earth...And now only those who loved him know what that little line is worth.For it matters not, how much we own,The cars...the house...the cash,What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash. So think about this long and hard...Are there things you'd like to change? For you never know how much time is left, that can still be rearranged. If we could just slow down enough to consider what's true and real, and always try to understand the way other people feel. and be less quick to anger, show appreciation more and love the people in our lives like we've never loved before. If we treat each other with respect, and more often wear a smile..Remembering that this special dash might last but a little while. So, when your eulogy's being read life's actions to rehash...Would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent your dash?
These are two poems I have come to love. The pain you feel of with the loss of a loved one is one can't not explain. I can say May heart goes out to those who have lost a brother or sister the pain never really goes away. Try not to think of what they will miss. Your children laughing & growing up. Try to remember all the things you already have shared and know that they are still around. But only in your heart.
Do not stand by my grave and weep.I am not there, I do not sleep.I am a thousand winds that blow,I am the diamond glints upon the snow.I am the sunlight on ripened grain andI am the gentle autumn rain.When you awaken in the morning’s hush,I am that swift uplifting rush,Of quiet birds in circled flight.I am the soft star that shines at night.Do not stand by my grave and cry,I am not there, I did not die.
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m freeI’m following the path God has laid you see.I took His hand when I heard him callI turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another dayTo laugh, to love, to work, to play.Tasks left undone must stay that wayI found that peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a voidThen fill it with remembered joy.A friendship shared, a laugh, a kissOh yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrowI wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.My life’s been full, I savored muchGood friends, good times, a loved one’s touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too briefDon’t lengthen it now with undue grief.Lift up your hearts and peace to theeGod wanted me now; He set me free.
I’d like the memory of meto be a happy one.I’d like to leave an after glowof smiles when life is done.I’d like to leave an echowhispering softly down the ways,Of happy times and laughing timesand bright and sunny days.I’d like the tears of those who grieve,to dry before the sunof happy memoriesthat I leave when life is done.
I am still here
When tomorrow starts without me,And I am not there to see,If the sun should rise and find your eyesAll filled with tears for me;I wish so much you wouldn’t cryThe way you did today,While thinking of the many things,We didn’t get to say.I know how much you love me,As much as I love youAnd each time you think of me,I know you’ll miss me too;But when tomorrow starts without me,Please try to understand,That an angel came and called my name,And took me by the hand,And said my place was ready,In heaven far above,And that I’d have to leave behind All those I dearly love.But as I turn to walk away,A tear fell from my eye,For all my life I’d always thought,I didn't want to die.I had so much to live for,So much yet left to do,It seemed almost impossibleThat I was leaving you.I thought of all those yesterdaysThe good ones and the bad,I thought of all the love we shared,All the fun we had.If I could relive yesterday,Just even for a while,I’d say goodbye and kiss youAnd maybe see you smile.But then I’d fully realizeThat this could never be,For emptiness and memories,Would take the place of me.And when I thought of worldly thingsI might miss come tomorrow,I thought of you, and when I didMy heart was filled with sorrow.But when I walked through those gates,I felt so much at home.When God looked down and smiled at me,From His great golden throne.He said, "This is eternity, And all I've promised you."Today your life on earth has pastBut here like starts anew.I promise no tomorrow,But today will always last,And since each day’s the same wayThere’s no longing for the past. You have been so faithful,So trusting and so true.Though there were timesYou did some things you know you shouldn’t doBut you have been forgiven,And at last you are freeSo won’t you come and take my handAnd share my life with me?SO when tomorrow starts without me,Don’t think we are far apart,For every time you think of meI’m right here in your heart.